Be StepWise was founded in 2009 in response to a growing demand from step-parents for information and support for their family life. Our aim is to offer all step-parents everywhere helpful family inspiration. Our services have been carefully and specially designed for the unique nature of a step family. Be StepWise is now a recognised resource for other organisations in the field and has an international following.
We know step-family life can be rewarding, fun and special. We know that step-families have a special set of different circumstances that makes each one exceptional. Every family grows, changes and develops. Life in any family is a journey. At Be StepWise we believe that with the right knowledge and awareness you can bring wisdom to your step-family life. We are here to help you with that journey and to make the most of that family life.
Our commitment to you:
We are a team of qualified, experienced professionals who have great empathy with step-parenting and step-family life. We will meet your specific requirements carefully and sensitively.
Why not email us, giving some background information, describe the situation as you see it, and then ask us a question.
We will respond. The initial 3 question and answer exchanges are free of charge.
Email is a great way to communicate and sending it to us this way may suit you best of all! You can think about what you want to say and how you want to say it in advance. You can think about the answer you receive in your own time.
Responses normally within 48 hours, although in some cases can take longer.
Want clarity and feel muddled? Want to be fair but not sure what that is in your situation? Want unity but can’t agree with your partner about your combined family? Want your relationship to work but currently feel frightened that you could break up?
These are all normal feelings. No-one tells you in advance. People say “you knew what you were getting into” – but you really didn’t. Emotions can be unfamiliar, like guilt, jealousy and incontrollable rage.
Or maybe you are embarking on a relationship with someone who has children and you want to plan and start off right….
We can meet you alone or with you and your partner. You will gain clarity, new perspectives, better understanding, and confidence in the direction to go. Sessions are for an hour and a quarter each. One coaching session may be all you need, or you may want more. The choice is yours.
Wanting family unity but family discord a problem? Wanting to change behaviour but have children who can’t or don’t want to accept change and are causing problems. Wanting everyone to feel okay but are worried about the effect of a previous divorce or the current situation? Getting on well as a bigger extended family is important but you hadn’t reckoned on the ex- partner or in-laws or other relatives being obstructive?
We see families together as large groups or see them in sub-sets of families. We look at families not as having problems but having systems and patterns that don’t work. People can get stuck in mind-sets resistant to change and rigid patterns of thinking. Change happens when there is a shift in how you or others see something. The solution comes from different thinking. This is a skilled job for the professional. However the change is instantaneous and well worth it. Several sessions with different people are sometimes necessary.
Are you a teacher or head-teacher and you want families to work but see family divorce and acrimony spoil children’s chances? Do you want to support families but see parents struggling? Do you want your school to be able to offer pragmatic help to families so everyone including you, the children and the community can benefit?
Be StepWise provides a proven workshop programme and individual coaching sessions for parents.
Be StepWise parenting programme. Many families have separated, or single parents these days. The programme is designed with the modern family unit in mind.
Programmes run with 10 delegates each, 4 sessions per programme, 2 hours duration. The sessions cover communication, discipline, nurturing, and learning. The sessions are interactive and participants have their own issues addressed. Feedback from programmes is always overwhelmingly positive.
Be StepWise has secured funding for schools programmes. Schools are able to meet criteria for accreditation in various ways from running the programme.
Are you a business leader with a remit to enable your organisation to support its employees to thrive? Do you want personnel to have access to specialised help to when they need it including in family matters? Do you want staff to be doing well but see the stress of divorce and re-marriage take its toll?
We are resource for your business. We inform: - we do lunch-time and evening talks and seminars. We speak at parenting networks and events. We provide individual support to people from within your organisation to help them with the problems of the aftermath of divorce, including parent alienation, contact, co-parenting contracts, children’s problems – anxiety depression etc, and the re-integration of families when parents meet new partners, move in together and sometimes start new families. Transitting from one family to another is fraught and we provide highly successful advice and support to busy people.
Are you a programme director or designer and putting on a programme where you want expert professional advice on new family forms and what this means actually – and also what the solutions are? – ask us. Are you wanting an answer to thorny questions and want a good answer from someone who knows? – ask us. Are step-families and the problems of blending families in the news and you want advice – ask us. Do you want someone who can speak well on radio or TV, or give an articulate written answer? – ask us.
Be StepWise are competent speakers and professionals who are experienced in media.
We also believe it is important to spread the word about the ways normal families live nowadays. The challenges of the modern family are tough, and we are keen to talk about them.
Maybe run the workshop over 2 days. So much to talk about although I do feel armed to deal with my situation now.
I would never have expected that so many positive changes could result from just one day on the step-parenting programme. The simple techniques I learnt on the course have really improved my relationship with my family.
I always wanted a big family, and now I’ve got one. Getting us all to work as a family was not easy but in the end we made it.
There is so little helpful information about step parenting on the net, until now that is. Thank you be stepwise.
Alison O’Mahony- Author of First Steps
Embarking on a new relationship with the children of your new partner can be daunting. As you become more involved with your partner and his or her children, the children (even adult ones!) can pull away. Alison explains how to read the tell-tale signs that show us that our step-children realise we have arrived, and gives us guidance on what to do about it. This book addresses this little-talked-about topic deftly and succinctly, giving us a wealth of valuable information and practical advice.
Alison O’Mahony- Author of ‘Let’s Talk’
Is an imaginative book that inspires us to manage our step-families proactively. It encourages us to develop systems around family life so we can get on with living and enjoying home. “Let the system carry the load” is a mantra that allows those difficult things about living with others to be spoken about instead of being left unsaid. The book is bursting with useful strategies. An essential read for any step-family.Buy these booklets