How my stepfather taught me to be a good parent

We all know that being a stepparent is certain to be a difficult task. After all, raising children isn’t easy at the best of times – and it’s certain to be even tougher for a stepfather or stepmother. I speak from experience, though not as a stepparent myself; rather I ..Continue Reading

Troubled Families

  Introduction New pair of glasses today, – new lens. Unrecognised by legal profession, education, health or mental health services, or the people themselves, (and I will come to that in a moment), or even in politics do not acknowledge it’s prevalence. Why? Because advise is always for nuclear families ..Continue Reading


Nurture Yourself

Setting the scene Parenting can often feel all about giving. You give your time, you give your advice, you give money and much more. Just when you thought you might be able to do something for yourself you find a child somewhere somehow needs you. I was at the school ..Continue Reading

Pivotal Parent

The Pivotal Parent, or the Mum or Dad who is your partner. It can seem like a terrible choice…….. You find love in a partner and sometime he or she says they have children. You might have children too. I’ve heard it said that you can be delighted. You’re pleased ..Continue Reading

My Step Daughter’s Wedding

From the perspective of a step daughter. My wedding was on the horizon; my parents had been divorced for 10 years following a very stormy marriage. My mother, still angry about the divorce, was refusing to have ‘that woman’ at the wedding. That woman was my father second wife, she ..Continue Reading

How to move in and start off right

“I’m moving in with my boyfriend and his two children he has them for half the week. We’ve been together a while I’ve met them plenty of times………” You will have your own one line sentence similar to the one above, but it will be different, different because it will ..Continue Reading

Introduction to Step Parenting

Becoming a step parent involves not only taking on someone else’s children but also someone else’s family and extended family. If you don’t have children of your own this can come as quite a shock and you may feel unprepared and ill-equipped to deal with everything life is now throwing ..Continue Reading

The Christmas Tree

This was a situation a Step Mum had: My new husband and I have been married for 6 months and Christmas is looming. He has 4 children from his previous marriage and I have 2. We are going to be spending Christmas together and each set of children have their ..Continue Reading

Be Stepwise Blog

Are you finding the children challenging? Are you wishing you could get on better- or get on at all? Are you starting out, merging two families, introducing a new baby, parenting adult or teen step-children, have children at different ages and stages? Do you want to make changes, assert yourself, ..Continue Reading