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Getting it Right so it Doesn’t Go Wrong: About blended families

Step-families are fundamentally different from other family types. These differences are not generally acknowledged because new step-families want to look like they are traditional-styled families. Yet to step-parent like a biological parent causes problems.

Currently, many parents are cross-over parents. They are unlikely to have been step-parented but are very likely to be step-parents. Children born since 2010 are more likely to be step-parented than not before they reach adulthood. Step-families are becoming the most common family type, yet most step-parents have had no experience of step-family life.

We know step-family life can be rewarding, fun and special. We know there are ways to help in a step-family, and ways to hinder. To help enables the family to flourish. To hinder means the family founders. Be StepWise help step-families help themselves so they can get it right so it doesn’t go wrong.
The problems we solve

Family Differences

Life-cycle mix-ups



When There is a Divorce

The Extended Family

The Pivotal Parent

The Step Parent

The Children

Our Services

Services we provide

Email Response Service

FREE – 3 email exchanges to answer any step-family question. If you put your question in writing to our contact box, we can usually reply within 48 hours.

PLEASE check your spam folder after two days if you do not receive a reply to your in-box.

Individual, Couple & Family Services

We meet with the individual step-parent, or the step-parent and their partner or entire families or family sub-sets.

Sometimes a single session is all that is wanted. At other times sessions are arranged at monthly intervals, or as required.

Parents have to contact Be StepWise via the contact box to set up the sessions. The best way forward is agreed. Sometimes this means a planning session with one or both of the parents in advance.

We can use telephone or Skype if convenient.


Next workshop: Date to be announced soon.

No of places: 12 per workshopTimings: One day. 9.00am – 4.30pm

Location: Central London. Euston, London NW1

Cost: £115.00. per person.

To book: Use the ‘contact us’ form on this website to tell us

To ask a question: ‘Contact us’ and if you’d like a call just say.


Be StepWise delivers seminars at businesses, networks and events. --Below is an example of a one-hour event.-- The Be StepWise Step-Parent seminar takes a closer look at step-parenting. We look at why a step-family is different and what this means. We correct the misconceptions about step-family life. We put into context the challenges step-parents face. We share strategies for enabling step-parents and their families to achieve a sustainable future together. As far as possible, we address any individual questions step-parents bring to the session. If the session is likely to be heavily attended, then we ask for questions to be submitted in advance.

Blog - the latest thoughts from Bestepwise

The four Step-parenting Mantras from Be StepWise.

Think with the end in mind. Think beyond this moment, beyond today or this week to the future. Our aim is for the young people in our care to grow up to be responsible adults. It is very easy to get bogged down in disagreements and despair at the way things are. Children are hard work, and step-parents often feel resentment. However, see the step-children as an investment and you

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I just want my family to be me, my husband and our baby.

“I don’t want my step-son in my life. We were bonded before, but now I can’t stand him. I resent him. I do not want him around my baby. I never knew I would have these feelings. I feel terrible for having them. My husband wants to see his child as much as possible. My husband and I argue about the child every time he is here. Help me please.”

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My 9-year-old step-son is aggressive and rude towards me..

Salvador Minuchin, a family therapist said “A child cannot be as powerful as an adult unless he’s standing on someone’s shoulders”    So, if you are experiencing this behaviour, whose shoulders is your step-child standing on? Who is giving this child the permission to feel entitled? to be rude and aggressive? Or cold, entitled and very rude?  Often as a step-parent on the receiving end of this behaviour from the child, the step-parent

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BestepWise continues to be featured on many television and radio shows. Contact us so we can continue to spread the Step-Parenting message far and wide. 

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Alison O'Mahony's latest book is now published!

Step-Children's Difficult Behaviour
Fulfilled By Amazon

Alison O’Mahony- Author of First Steps

Embarking on a new relationship with the children of your new partner can be daunting. As you become more involved with your partner and his or her children, the children (even adult ones!) can pull away. Alison explains how to read the tell-tale signs that show us that our step-children realise we have arrived, and gives us guidance on what to do about it. This book addresses this little-talked-about topic deftly and succinctly, giving us a wealth of valuable information and practical advice.

Alison O’Mahony- Author of ‘Let’s Talk’

Is an imaginative book that inspires us to manage our step-families proactively. It encourages us to develop systems around family life so we can get on with living and enjoying home. “Let the system carry the load” is a mantra that allows those difficult things about living with others to be spoken about instead of being left unsaid. The book is bursting with useful strategies. An essential read for any step-family.

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