Think with the end in mind. Think beyond this moment, beyond today or this week to the future. Our aim is for the young people in our care to grow up to be responsible adults. It is very easy to get bogged down in disagreements and despair at the way things are. Children are hard work, and step-parents often feel resentment. However, see the step-children as an investment and you
solving issues within a step-family
Getting it Right so it Doesn’t Go Wrong: About blended families
Currently, many parents are cross-over parents. They are unlikely to have been step-parented but are very likely to be step-parents. Children born since 2010 are more likely to be step-parented than not before they reach adulthood. Step-families are becoming the most common family type, yet most step-parents have had no experience of step-family life.
We know step-family life can be rewarding, fun and special. We know there are ways to help in a step-family, and ways to hinder. To help enables the family to flourish. To hinder means the family founders. Be StepWise help step-families help themselves so they can get it right so it doesn’t go wrong.
The problems we solve
When There is a Divorce
The Extended Family
The Pivotal Parent
The Step Parent
Services we provide
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Individual, Couple & Family Services
Sometimes a single session is all that is wanted. At other times sessions are arranged at monthly intervals, or as required.
Parents have to contact Be StepWise via the contact box to set up the sessions. The best way forward is agreed. Sometimes this means a planning session with one or both of the parents in advance.
We can use telephone or Skype if convenient.
No of places: 12 per workshopTimings: One day. 9.00am – 4.30pm
Location: Central London. Euston, London NW1
Cost: £115.00. per person.
To book: Use the ‘contact us’ form on this website to tell us
To ask a question: ‘Contact us’ and if you’d like a call just say.
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“I don’t want my step-son in my life. We were bonded before, but now I can’t stand him. I resent him. I do not want him around my baby. I never knew I would have these feelings. I feel terrible for having them. My husband wants to see his child as much as possible. My husband and I argue about the child every time he is here. Help me please.”
Salvador Minuchin, a family therapist said “A child cannot be as powerful as an adult unless he’s standing on someone’s shoulders” So, if you are experiencing this behaviour, whose shoulders is your step-child standing on? Who is giving this child the permission to feel entitled? to be rude and aggressive? Or cold, entitled and very rude? Often as a step-parent on the receiving end of this behaviour from the child, the step-parent
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Embarking on a new relationship with the children of your new partner can be daunting. As you become more involved with your partner and his or her children, the children (even adult ones!) can pull away. Alison explains how to read the tell-tale signs that show us that our step-children realise we have arrived, and gives us guidance on what to do about it. This book addresses this little-talked-about topic deftly and succinctly, giving us a wealth of valuable information and practical advice.
Alison O’Mahony- Author of ‘Let’s Talk’
Is an imaginative book that inspires us to manage our step-families proactively. It encourages us to develop systems around family life so we can get on with living and enjoying home. “Let the system carry the load” is a mantra that allows those difficult things about living with others to be spoken about instead of being left unsaid. The book is bursting with useful strategies. An essential read for any step-family.